Finding the one

 Everyone has many different goals in life. Some people aspire to be laureate poets, while others try to learn other languages. Some people seek PhD's, while others try to become professional athletes. Though many people aspire to do different things with their professional goals, a goal that the majority of people share, regardless of profession, is to get married a start a family. For many people their is nothing that is more important to them than their family. The first and most important step in starting a family obviously is finding someone who you would want to start a family with.

In trying to find the one who you want to start your family with, there are many things to consider. As you begin to go on dates with others, you need to look for the traits that you would want in a partner, while also making sure that you avoid any big red flags that you may come into contact with. As you go on dates with people, it is important to do a wide variety of activities together, in different situation. If you always do the same activity together, you know how that person will act under those circumstances, but you would have no idea how they would react under different settings, such as different group settings, or in situations of service, or any other situation you may be presented with. When you are married, you will not only be doing that same activity, but rather you will be put in a wide variety of areas, whether they are planned or not. You will constantly be around eachother, and as a result it is important to know what kind of person they will be under the different circumstances that will be presented. As you go around and do activities that put you both in different circumstances, it will allow you to see the qualities that you seek after in a companion in situations beyond just one activity.

As you begin dating, it is very important that you don't get blinded by your emotions for others. As you begin steadily dating someone, an important step is to introduce them to your friends and family. It is important to see how they will react to being around those that are closest to you. As you look at the way that they interact with those outside of the relationship, you are able to see if the way that they act towards you is the same way they would act with anyone. It is very important to ask others for advice in terms of your relationship. Your friends and family really want what is best for you. They want to help guide you in a direction that will help you to be able to be your happiest self. As you seek council, you are able to help push your relationships in the best direction.

In the end, you want to marry your best friend. It is important that you act with them the same way you would with your best friend growing up. You should make sure that you tell them everything. You should never try to hide something from them. It is important to show the love you have for them all the time. As you seek to become your best self, you will be able to grow with them as a person. It is important that as you find the one, that you do not look for a finished product, because you will never find one. Nobody is perfect in every single conceivable way. We all have our own individual flaws. When we look for  partner  for forever, we need to realize that they won't be perfect and neither are we. We need to make sure that we are willing to see the good in others, and look to continuously grow with them. As we grow with each other, we will be more able to appreciate each other in the realtionship.