Communication

 Communication is key to be able to solve any problem with any relationship is to communicate it. There will always be problems in any relationship, in which there will be disagreements. It is important that when you are in any disagreement, that regardless of what you are thinking in that moment, that you remember that you are talking with another human being, and in the case of a family, you are talking with a loved one. Make sure that you act and speak with love when you are in the middle of any argument. There are a few important keys that will help to communicate things easier, while showing signs of trust, and allowing for more effective problem solving.

The first key to helping to de escalate any argument and solve any problem is to listen to what they are saying, and try to find any points of truth in their arguments, regardless of how far out it may seem. It is important to try keep as much of the trust that you have in them, and give them the chance to show they can still be trusted. In the end you really won't be able to know completely whether they are telling the truth or not. It is important to constantly try to avoid discounting what they are saying. Always try to give them the benefit of the doubt.

The next key to helping with arguments is to empathize. Think about how they are probably feeling at that moment. To use a cliche, walk a mile in their shoes. As you are able to empathize with how they are feeling at that moment, you are more able to see what is at the root of their argument. You can see where they are coming from, and why they are saying what they are saying. You can empathize with both their thoughts and emotions. Both are important in allowing you to fully see what they are saying and how they are acting.

The third key in helping with arguments in a relationship is to ask. As much as you try to imagine what they are feeling, and why they are feeling that way, you won't be able to completely understand why that is. Inquiring them about what led them to feel this way will not only help you understand more what they are feeling, but will also allow them to gain more trust in you, because you are showing that you genuinely care about their feelings, and that you want to resolve this problem.

Another key to helping with arguments is asserting how you feel, and why that it is. This argument is going both ways, and in order for it to be resolved, they also need to understand what you are feeling, along with why that it is. As you explain your emotions, you are able to build more trust with them, and you are able to get it resolved quicker. When you make yourself vulnerable, you will be able to talk through your emotions, and help get them resolved.

The last key to help with communicating, is showing respect in the argument. Even though at the moment you may have very negative thoughts about that person, you need to remember positive things that you like about them, and then telling them. As you do this, you will show them that you care about them, and that regardless of what is going on at that moment, you still love and respect them. Even though it may seem difficult to do in that moment, it is important to always look for the best in people. Everyone always has something good to offer.