Parenting Styles

 This week we discussed how  the different styles of parenting are  very important. The three styles of parenting are active parenting, autocratic parenting, and permissive parenting. To me the most beneficial of these three styles is active parenting, while the worst style of parenting to have would be autocratic parenting.

Active parenting is the style of parenting, in which you give children choices. Rather than to act as though they are children and as such their voice doesn't matter, in this style of parenting you are showing them that you respect them. You are establishing a culture in which you are showing them the importance to have two way relationships. As much as you give respect them, you also make a point that it is important that they show the same respect. The relationship between you and your children is built on a feeling of mutual teamwork, and trust. As a result as problems arise with them, you are able to show them as you discipline them that you are doing it out of love, and to help them to grow. This will allow your children to be more willing to come to you with the problems that they are dealing with at the time. The most important thing to remember with this style of parenting does not mean that you are bending to the will of your children. It is important to make sure that you are still implementing rules for them, with real discipline for not obeying them. As you do this, while also trying to make sure that they are doing well, and taking an active role in their development. This will help to keep a mutual feeling of respect and trust between you and your children.

A second style of parenting is autocratic parenting. In this form of parenting, the general strategy is that what you say goes. In this form, you are saying that your children are to do what you tell them to do regardless, and when they disagree, or disobey, they are met with discipline. This form of parenting allows causes there to be frequent power struggles between you and your children. As a result of this form of parenting, it is difficult for their to be a feeling of trust to be established in you by your children, because you have demonstrated to them that what they say won't matter, because regardless of the input they put in, it has always been your way that prevails. It will be difficult for their to be any feeling of cooperation between you and your children, as a result of this strategy of parenting.

The final strategy of parenting is the permissive strategy. In this instance, you feel that you don't want to be autocratic, so you overcompensate, and develop this strategy. In this form of parenting, you become more and more willing to do whatever your child asks. As a result of this, you are not forming a mutual bond of respect, rather it is one sided. As a result of this, as you try to go back on this for of parenting, you are met with tantrums from them. They feel like they are entitled to what they are given, because you have shown them that in the past when they asked, the were always given what they wanted. This strategy will lead to your child never gaining a full respect for people in the future. It is key to instill the importance of treating everyone with respect, because in the real world, people won't cater to their needs, and do as they ask. They will likely be working for someone else, and they will need to understand how to treat them with respect.